Our jobs are located in a small town (population is ~6,000 😬), and as all small towns go, everyone knows your business...which is why we live in a larger town ~20 miles away. I think my clients in that small town knew the result of our pregnancy test before we did. I blame Facebook. Dana works for the school district in that small town. She's a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and a Board Certified Behavior Analyst, and primarily works with students in the lower grades helping them with behavioral problems, giving them tools they need in order to excel in the classroom (and survive their home life), and being available for their breakdowns. Her co-workers know that she is a lesbian, but it's not really a topic that comes up while she is working with a student who is trying to express their feelings by playing in a sand box. Weirdly, one of the students she works with stopped her in the school yard this week with a question:
1st Grader: What is your husband's name?
Dana: Why are you asking?
1st Grader: I think my Dad knows your husband.
Dana: I don't think so.
I asked her how she diverted his attention, but she said that luckily he got sidetracked. (He's one of those students.) I would love to be a fly on her office wall when a student figures out that she is married to me, this phenomenal, loving wife who is also an excellent mother to our child. Some of the kids in the school know me because their parents are clients of mine, and when they are informed by their parents that I am married to Ms. Sabin, it throws them for a loop. It's cute when they finally connect the dots, and obviously have no problem with it, which is why I find it weird that some people are worried if their kids find out that someone is gay. Actually, I don't find that weird, I just find it sad.
I promise to not end this blog post on a sad note. Instead, I'm going to share our first family photo, sans Lincoln. We took a small weekend trip up to Gualala, and our friend took this pic while we were hiking along the coast. It was definitely a windy day, perfectly crisp weather, and the views were amazing!
Our Patagonia jackets kept us warm. Sawyer should be a model for them. Look how cute he is! Â